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5) Several Took Time to Interact About my (Doug’s) Pneumonia

We’re indebted to those who have prayed and given input after Doug’s item regarding contracting pneumonia. The prayers and input are greatly appreciated. Don’t hesitate to add more to the thread if you’ve experienced something similar, including if you’ve been able to push through 81 years, like Neal mentioned in his comments. (Thanks Neal! Hats off to you brother!)

 

www.brigada.org/2019/06/16_26480

 

We especially liked Jenny’s write-up about her organization’s Roomba vacuum cleaner, affectionately named “Rosie.”

 

jennysmithrollson.com/dont-be-like-rosie-recharge-your-battery/

 

8) Raise Your Hand if Resilience Isn’t Needed in Your Job

Whoa. Nobody. Then … raise your hand if you’ve ever trained in it. Yikes. Nobody again. Want to fix that? It’s easy. Our Member Care Coordinator (thanks Jenny) recently told us about a resilience course we can take *online* without having to miss a thing. No travel. No skipped meals. No dorms. Do it right from your den. It’s a course two-week online course designed to give you tools to understand and grow in resilience and to keep your life and ministry true to your calling. And it’ll only set you back $50 bucks or so. See it at…

 

www.missiontools.org/resources/sr/

 

Get the whole shooting match — the content, community, consultation, and connections you need to harden your armor. It could save you (and your church or org) a bundle when you don’t quit prematurely. Try it. Let is know what you think in a comment, afterward. We’d love to hear from you.

 

14) The Last Bit: Lessons from 5 Days of Pneumonia

I (Doug) had had plenty of sore throats. But never like this one. In fact, on Monday night, when my throat felt like daggers and my chest felt like knives, I knew something was going on. I dreaded just to swallow. The lady at the immediate care center on Tuesday had that worried look in her eyes. She sent me directly to the E.R. The E.R. people took one glance at a chest X-ray and confirmed what some had already postulated. I had contracted pneumonia. From the start of the first sore throat pain to full-blown chest X-ray confirmation, it had probably taken less than 48 hours. But the steps that could have prevented it might have taken place throughout the previous 10 days — and just *maybe* I could have saved two nights in the hospital. (I was just released last night.) How might I have saved that hospital stay and avoided contracting pneumonia?

 

a) Determine your MOL — your Maximum Output Level. (I’m not sure that’s really a thing, but let’s just pretend it is.) What’s the maximum amount of stuff you can do to serve the Lord without “breaking something?” I get this rule from Coloss. 3:23, ” Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart.” By “breaking something,” I mean — getting an ulcer, picking up high blood pressure or some other heart problem, and with some, just recurring headaches or becoming crabby with those around us. For me, for some reason, over the past few decades, I was just able to keep functioning. Basically, it seemed like my body didn’t care. Of course, I’m not overweight, I exercise three times per week (two hours minimum each instance), and I love my work. (If you’re curious about the exercise, just find an aerobic game you love. For me, it’s soccer. I play with a pool of 40 internationals. We play 10 v 10 on two fields. It’s a ton of fun. And wow — it’s great heart-work, in more ways than one.) For my own purposes, that worked. Your mileage may vary. Sooner or later though, my theory is, some little thing is going to give us a clue of our headroom. We’ll experience a tiny crack in a “head gasket,” figuratively speaking. Once we find that crack, we’ll know our limit. By God’s grace, for some reason, I didn’t see a crack until this week — pneumonia. The important thing is — once we experience that crack, we’ll know our max. Now go to step b.

 

b) Ask God to help you operate at 80-90% of your MOL. Take into consideration your age. (I’m 62.) So I have to realize… I probably shouldn’t have done quite so many flights and nightly trips to the train station at 2am in the morning in a foreign country last week while leading a global gathering, which left me with an average of 4 hours sleep while leading meetings and training sessions during the day. I confess: It probably lowered my resistance, making it harder for my system to fend off what otherwise might have been a bad cold germ — but this past Tuesday became pneumonia. Confession.) So now that I know my MOL, I want to stay just *under* it — without exceeding it. How will I do that? For me, I’ll start by adjusting sleep patterns. Instead of 4 hours’ sleep on multiple nights during push times, I’ll try to keep those nights to a maximum of 1 at a time, if at all possible. The other nights, I’m committing to you that I’m going to try for *7* hours per night average sleep now (I was getting an average of 5 or 6 hours for the past 40 years). So I’ll have to delegate a *bunch* more work. (Get ready guys. I’ll be asking for help. : ) )

 

c) Find regular throttle downs to cool your jets. No airline operates its planes at 100% thrust (or more) during 100% of every day. There are throttle-downs (if for nothing else, to do required maintenance). (People who know me: Can you believe you’re hearing me say this?) How much your engine needs for throttle down is a very personal thing. Some need more than others. Know thyself and listen for the changes along the way. Starting now, I’m going to try for at least a one- to two-hour throttle down at some point during every day of my life. No matter where I am. And a one-day-a-week throttle down even if I’m traveling. Throttle down (otherwise known as Sabbath) can mean different things to different people. Rest from stress combined with reconnecting closely with Christ seems to make the most sense, wouldn’t we all agree?

 

d) Listen to those around you — but not too much. : ) In other words, listen to your physician. Hear your pastor and supervisor. But remember that many well-meaning people are probably offering your advice gained through their own lenses on their own life experience with their own jet, not yours. Models vary. There were people telling me at age 16 that I was going to kill myself by the time I was 20. For whatever reason, one thing we know: that didn’t happen. That was over 40 years ago. I think we have to know our systems. Listen to our health and our heart. If we could just keep weight off, stay active, and love life, many of us could probably do a lot more during the three decades I’ve just lived. The trouble is, we either have a metabolism issue (for which, maybe we could go to the doctor?), or … I’m not sure. But whatever it is that causes so many of us to gain unhealthy weight… shew… Father please help us avert/avoid it. Again, let’s all find a game (or a gym) we love and work it. Sure it takes discipline. But you’ve got this. Eat to live instead of live to eat. Choose food that makes your life possible instead of living so you can choose food. We could all enjoy a tiny slice of a lot of life if we just did those slices in moderation instead of “slabs.” So … meeting with our doctors, trimming our portions, and exercising. Wow – what if that could give you 30 more years of 100% MOL?

 

The cool part is — It’s Friday … just three days after I was diagnosed in the hospital with pneumonia. I was just released from the hospital last night. Just prior to release, I asked my doctor for his opinion — and based on the recovery God has given me, he sanctioned my return to soccer — in tomorrow morning’s game (Saturday). I can’t wait. Again, there will be people who will tell me that’s crazy. But I won’t try to tell them what their system is like. And they might not be able to understand mine. I was lucky enough to hear a tiny crack (ok; Monday night it didn’t seem so tiny; I thought I was dying.) Now I have to follow it. But today, after just 3 days, my doctor says I’m already well enough to get back in the game? There’s a message (and a doctor) I love. (Truth is, he says restoring deep breathing is the most important thing to do anyway. : ) )

 

So — know your MOL, stay at 80-90% max, throttle down for a couple of hours/day and a Sabbath day per week, and listen to those around you but not too much. Pray a lot. Love life and all the people you meet. What could be better than that? Oh — and consider soccer.

 

Boy. Monday night, I thought I was dying. : )

 

Hopefully, I’ll write an update in 10 years to let you know how it’s going. Please comment. : )

 

10) What Will It Take to Grow Sustainable Resilience?

That’s the question/topic of an online class, Aug. 28-Sept. 11, and repeated again, Oct. 16-20 this year.  It’s a two-week CIT Next online course designed to raise awareness and develop perspectives and lifestyle choices that will increase resilience and keep cross-cultural workers true to their God-given calling. The course asks you to make an investment of 8-12 hours of learning time over the 15-day period. The next classes meet…

 

           Aug. 28-Sept. 11, 2019

           Oct.16-20, 2019

 

To sign up, just jump to…

 

www.grow2serve.com/resources/sr/

 

(Thanks to Jenny for taking this class and recommending it to us!)

 

12) The BackPage: Toward Cultural Resilience —

For nearly 15 years, our organization’s new missionary orientation has featured a workshop entitled, “Missions is High Adventure,” which pretty much seeks to establish a connection between cross-cultural service and whitewater rafting or an Outward Bound rock-climbing vacation. Seriously, we’ve said for some time that this job is hard work. If we’re going to be successful, we have to embrace it — nearly like a runner embraces a marathon or a mud-laden survival course. After all, people pay good money to hang on the edge of a cliff, with one rope and a couple of toe-holds being the only thing separating them from a 300-foot drop. Our cause, on the other hand, is a bit more eternal — and worth it. So — this is what we do. We believe strongly in member care and have now sought to infuse it throughout every single member of the organization. But at the same time, we also believe that the best way to stay healthy is to pursue our Great Passion of “creative, strategic perseverance until the results are achieved.” Here are a couple of ways one can observe our resilience at work:

 

*** If a critical incident happens on our team, the Protocol Guidebook calls for us to debrief it in the region rather than back in the USA. Research, along with our experience, has shown that our workers recover much more quickly and effectively when we follow this protocol closely.

 

*** In the case of kidnappings, we never pay ransom. Ever. We’re now in our 34th year and, by God’s grace, we have yet to experience a kidnapping. Let’s hope we never do. But if we do, whether it’s an “express kidnapping” (in which perpetrators ask for relatively smaller amounts of ransom payment and try to resolve the kidnapping quickly) or otherwise, for our strategy to continue to be effective, our workers, and their families, need to be of one mind and of one commitment to hold the line on ransom. Because the day we start paying it, our workers the world over will become a bigger target. For as long as we hold out, we lessen our risk. During my watch as president, I’m committed to holding out.

 

*** New to our protocols (as of the past year) — if a worker is expelled, he or she will now be asked to debrief and redeploy to another site in the region without breaking stride by returning to the USA. This mentality requires mental preparation in advance so please help us get the word out — we’re transitioning our thinking to a stance that assumes that, over time, there is now a much stronger likelihood that we might have to redeploy more often. Let’s be ready for it.

 

What are the matching protocols used by your own organization or family? Do these seem difficult or harsh? How do your practices differ and why? To respond, just click “Comment,” below. We appreciate your feedback!

 

Doug

 

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